Wednesday, June 06, 2018

Stop Calling Men Deadbeats

Last week, a judge in New York ruled that a 30-year-old man must move out of his childhood home on June 1 after his parents served him with several notices asking him to go. The ruling inadvertently exposed a hidden truth: The boys are not all right.

A generation of damaged boys are turning into impaired men and, as seen by the mocking coverage of this case, we’re treating this development like a joke, encouraged to ridicule and condemn them for it....

Part of the problem is we’ve been encouraging girls at the expense of boys. The language of empowerment we use around girls is absent from how we talk to boys. The expectation that males will succeed just because they are male has been smashed, just like feminists wanted, but now what? To shrug our shoulders and not care what happens to a generation of young men is to produce a generation of Michael Rotondos, adrift and living at home as they enter their 30s.

It doesn’t help that this demographic is also finding it so hard to get, and stay, employed. An Economic Policy Institute report from February found that men are absent from the workforce in large numbers. This is a big change from the past. The report noted that “in 1979, only 6.3 percent of prime-age men did not work at all over the course of a year, but that number nearly doubled to 11.9 percent in 2016.” The telling thing is that there isn’t widespread concern about this; instead there is a celebration that women are outpacing men at school and at work.

The rising prominence of Canadian clinical psychologist Jordan Peterson is a development of this. He has been described as a “father figure” to this group of lost boys. His controversial speeches, which are attended overwhelmingly by men and offer direction on getting their lives in order — to literally “clean up their room” — is taking the place of parents who have failed to instruct their children to do the same.

We need to start teaching boys how to “clean up their rooms” or not be so surprised that grown-up men still live in them.

Without a combination of changes, men have no reason to move out of the house and into a world that hates them. And a good start would be to quit calling men deadbeats all the time. That isn't going to motivate any man to do anything but dig his heels in.



Anonymous said...

The young men are evidence of incompetent parents.

Stan B said...

All parents start incompetent. There is no class you can take, no set of experiences you can have, and no amount of advice you can be given that prepares you for being responsible for molding a child. They will literally let ANYONE take a child home from the hospital with the only qualification being that the woman squirted it out - even the heroin moms leave with their babies!

The problem is, in their search for advice, these incompetent people sometimes latch on to really bad advisors - encouraging them to be their children's "best friend," and not to worry, the "boys will be alright." THAT is the problem - that incompetent parents REMAIN incompetent far too long.

Dean said...

It makes me wonder what my life would have been had the constant anti-white male drums been beating as I grew to adulthood. Would I have had the strength to ignore the message, tell those shouting it to stuff it up their rear, and go after my dreams? After all, I was shy, socially awkward, and directionless, a perfect candidate for the basement room.
But my parents were willing to be parents, not friends, and made it abundantly clear that I was to make my own way in life. And used a not-so-subtle boot in the rear to get me going.
Thanks Mom and Dad. You helped me have a good life.
The current crop of basement dwellers? Parents who want to be friends, not parents. A society that inculcates the idea that nobody fails, that we are all winners - a concept that leaves one totally unprepared for life. And increasing propaganda from the liberal left that males, especially white males, are merely useless drones that need to be shoved aside.
No wonder we have basement dwellers.

Bird of Paradise said...

Sorry snowflake but your Mommy and Daddy want to turn your basement into combination Mans Cave and Sewing Room so its time to move to the Snowflake Hotel